Chastity

The concept of chastity is does not go well with most people in this world of today. The simple art of waiting till marriage is noise to the youth of the present day. We have directed the blame to the media and technology on the rot that exists in today's society. The simple question I ask is, what is the attachment between self control and media? the answer to this question is attached to the cliche' "garbage in, garbage out", which may be true at times. It is however written in the good book that "out of the abundance of the heart, speaks the mouth". It therefore translates to the fact that what ever we practice or do or talk about or believe in, is dependent on our inner soul, deep inside our hearts.

The bitter truth is that we are responsible for all the things we do, say or think. The fact that the media has some biased information concerning out moral is closely liked to the fact that we have accepted such things to be part of us. I am pretty sure that there is a clean side side of Facebook and another dirty side, where dirty means what you define dirt to be. Both ends are just a click away, and I am very sure nobody is compelled to clink a link if they don't want to. The fact you are on Instagram does not mean you have to go around looking at nude photos or the rest. Anyway, save for my defensive talk, but blame game will not solve the menace. Sin is not relative and it will never be relative. Sin is sin and sex before marriage is sin. That is not a question of bargain.

The concept of chastity has been destroyed by the current day premarital relationship. People tell me, "I need to know someone before I marry them" or "I need some experience" and so forth. The simple question I ask, and has also been asked, How far is too far? The problem with this question us that, once you get the answer, you will start trying to move closer and close to those limits. There is nothing nice that is obtained from physical intimacy outside marriage. Emotional damage and other related problems result from sharing physical intimacy outside marriage. Instead of asking, what the limits are or How far is too far, I prefer you set your standards and build on them. Before marriage, do not do anything that arouse powerful emotions that are only supposed to be aroused in marriage. If you know anything you do or is done to you will arouse such feelings then you have to find another way. 

Sex outside marriage spoils relationships, this I say from experience. Once two people get in a relationship, the desire for physical intimacy drives in so wildly and before it happens, there is a very wild attraction that drives into the heart of the two. In the first few days you will like say no, then hold hands, then hug, then kiss and within no time, you shall have fallen into it. The sad bit is that, after you you go physical, the whole concept of attraction disappears and hate slowly sets in. Within no time, the relationship is broken, Sex spoils relationships and a man will dump you after having going intimate with you, because the say goes, I thought there was something different. Make your choices well and set you standards and with that you will not fall into the trap.